Thursday, January 18, 2007

Life isnt as easy as it seem to be..

When Things Are Beyond your control , here's something that you must NOT DO so as to avoid misery in your life:

You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be.
You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.
Then, when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry!
That's what miserable people do!
On the other hand, let's say you expect that:Friends SHOULD return favours.
People SHOULD appreciate you.
Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
Everyone SHOULD be honest.
Your husband or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday.

These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, thesethings won't happen!
So you end up frustrated and disappointed.

There's a better strategy.

Demand less, and instead, have preferences!

For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:"I WOULD PREFER "A", BUT IF "B" HAPPENS, IT'S OK TOO!"

This is really a change in mindset. It is a shift in attitude, and itgives you more peace of mind ...

You prefer that people are polite ... but when they are rude, it doesn'truin your day.
You prefer sunshine ... but if it rains, it is ok too!

To become happier, we either need to

a) Change the world, or
b) Change our thinking.

It is easier to change our Thinking!

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