I am a programmer or some people call it system developer. My work is to do the thinking other people don't want to do- that's what i do for a living. I think.
I like to think and do calculation and making logic. My judgement is only based on math and logic and structure. If the math is correct, does it logic? If its logic will it provide a good structure for the foundation?
When all lead to YES, then i will start typing my codes, hundreds and thousands of lines, to build one perfect system for the client.
When i work, i love quite uninterrupted place. Where i can do all the math inside my brain before my fingers start moving typing the codes. When the logic become hard, my brain work really hard and i will be easily annoyed even with simple not-so-funny conversation.
Programmers is not weird person, they just being themselves, thinking and structuring. Well at least they are more realistic than some people who converse a lot or very loud but well an empty can. Not all, some people can be very loud but they have the brain or at least vision in life.
I might be very quiet ( sometimes ), that is when i analyzing new people or people i don't really know. I prefer to absorb all the talking rather than do the talking. Sometimes i just laugh at some stupid boasting talk some people will do to impress other people. Gosh, maybe the saying "It's better to keep silent and be thought as a fool , than to speak and remove all doubt" is indeed true :)
So when some people very quiet, don't simply judge them by saying they have the cruelest mind or cold or stupid or do not mingle or whatever negative judgment you have in mind. before you put any judgment on other person, make sure you are perfect. If not, you just another dog who bark the loudest but doesn't bite. After all action is better than just mere talking rite? :)
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Wednesday, March 23, 2011
SPM result- Moment of truth? :)
While i am writing this post, i am waiting for my laundry and drying the floor i just mopped..That's the bless when you work at home :)
2011 is the year of experimenting. I want to really go ahead and do what i wanted to do, without have to think about all the 'what ifs' and all my savings, bills and so on. And yea, money didn't come everymonth like it did when i was working with other company, but i can really sit down and manage my so called business, think about all possibilities and see the flow. Well people, that's the basic things about business, ain't it? But yes, i had backup plan for everything, so i will be safe :)
Today all students who sit for their SPM exam last year will having their moment of truth. Haha, it was 10 years ago for me, but i always remember how it feels. nervous and excited, but at the same time its killing me. As a student, i know, it's all about how many As :) and university.
It's important to give yourself a very strong basic in education. It is important-but it's not everything. I remember my 11 years in primary and secondary school, i always wanted to be the best. I think in one stage i did it. My name was on the school / District Best Student. And i can kill to get that tittle before. Ha ha. But actually thinking back, it doesn't mean anything now. It's all about are your really wise enough to choose the best path in your life?
But i never really agree when some people says you don't have to have a good education background to success. In some case, yep, some people success without having to go to college or university. But how many percent of them? You see, having a very strong education background is really good, because you can be exposed with so many things while you taking your diploma or degree. And it helps you to develop your sense of living skills, business mind, managing skills and so on. You live and talk to other ambitious people and it will make you more expose to the world.
I would say, if you are not a genius, then stay at school, learn as much as you can! But, open up your mind to learn more than what you learn in school. You can start thinking and planning about your life as early as 18, or wait until you reach 30 and only declare that you are finally started to think about life seriously.
2011 is the year of experimenting. I want to really go ahead and do what i wanted to do, without have to think about all the 'what ifs' and all my savings, bills and so on. And yea, money didn't come everymonth like it did when i was working with other company, but i can really sit down and manage my so called business, think about all possibilities and see the flow. Well people, that's the basic things about business, ain't it? But yes, i had backup plan for everything, so i will be safe :)
Today all students who sit for their SPM exam last year will having their moment of truth. Haha, it was 10 years ago for me, but i always remember how it feels. nervous and excited, but at the same time its killing me. As a student, i know, it's all about how many As :) and university.
It's important to give yourself a very strong basic in education. It is important-but it's not everything. I remember my 11 years in primary and secondary school, i always wanted to be the best. I think in one stage i did it. My name was on the school / District Best Student. And i can kill to get that tittle before. Ha ha. But actually thinking back, it doesn't mean anything now. It's all about are your really wise enough to choose the best path in your life?
But i never really agree when some people says you don't have to have a good education background to success. In some case, yep, some people success without having to go to college or university. But how many percent of them? You see, having a very strong education background is really good, because you can be exposed with so many things while you taking your diploma or degree. And it helps you to develop your sense of living skills, business mind, managing skills and so on. You live and talk to other ambitious people and it will make you more expose to the world.
I would say, if you are not a genius, then stay at school, learn as much as you can! But, open up your mind to learn more than what you learn in school. You can start thinking and planning about your life as early as 18, or wait until you reach 30 and only declare that you are finally started to think about life seriously.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
How to be the popular babe on town
Well girls, here you go :)
Make a good first impression on everybody you meet. First impressions can make you or break you and you want every person you meet to remember you, in a good way. Remember you only get one chance to make a first impression.
Make an effort to stay in style. Try wearing makeup, or making a signature accessory.
Be confident. Stop thinking you are ugly or that you aren't cool enough. Everyone is either beautiful on the inside, outside, or both. Be comfortable with that!
Know the guys.Talk to the popular/friendly/kind guys and don't be afraid. Also, be flirty! he he
Stay Fit and try working out a little bit. Trying different sports is a great chance to meet new people especially the guys.
...last but not least..Don't copy other girls. This will make you seem like a wannabe!
Make a good first impression on everybody you meet. First impressions can make you or break you and you want every person you meet to remember you, in a good way. Remember you only get one chance to make a first impression.
Make an effort to stay in style. Try wearing makeup, or making a signature accessory.
Be confident. Stop thinking you are ugly or that you aren't cool enough. Everyone is either beautiful on the inside, outside, or both. Be comfortable with that!
Know the guys.Talk to the popular/friendly/kind guys and don't be afraid. Also, be flirty! he he
Stay Fit and try working out a little bit. Trying different sports is a great chance to meet new people especially the guys.
...last but not least..Don't copy other girls. This will make you seem like a wannabe!
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Aminulrasyid trial
It almost had been a year since Aminulrasyid case trial. I had been following this case and everytime reading it, my heart cry. And i can't imagine how his mother feel each time she had to be in the court session and had to bear all the good and bad things people talk about her beloved son.
I can't comment much on this, as it's too complicated to really know the situation. I am just sometimes annoyed with Cpl Jenain Subi's pic, showing that he is all calm and like knowing that he will be ok. I mean, doesn't he feel any guilt after everything? Aminulrasyid was just 15 yrs old boy, who happen to do some stupid non-harmless thing, get panicked and he deserved to be killed??
What makes really really me sick is the parang the police claim they found in the car. Well people, isn't it too obvious?
I don't know, it's really hard to believe even the police nowadays. Not all but most of them. It's like they always feel that they are POLICE and they have this right to do anything because they are POLICE. You know, it's like 'i'm the boss' kind of stuffs..
Someone told me and some friends that police usually will just tembak any crime does caught red handed, because it is a waste of government's money to put them into jail, with all the trial and stuffs. Disgusting? Yea, really. I don't know how true is the story but that's just what we had been told.
Do they ever think of any possibility that it will happen to their family? Maybe they just some teenagers who get naughty and yes it is not right. But who are they to play God to take someone's life just like that? And to those who think it's a right way to 'save government money' maybe it's time for you to contribute more to the country's economy!
Aminulrasyid, RIP...
I can't comment much on this, as it's too complicated to really know the situation. I am just sometimes annoyed with Cpl Jenain Subi's pic, showing that he is all calm and like knowing that he will be ok. I mean, doesn't he feel any guilt after everything? Aminulrasyid was just 15 yrs old boy, who happen to do some stupid non-harmless thing, get panicked and he deserved to be killed??
What makes really really me sick is the parang the police claim they found in the car. Well people, isn't it too obvious?
I don't know, it's really hard to believe even the police nowadays. Not all but most of them. It's like they always feel that they are POLICE and they have this right to do anything because they are POLICE. You know, it's like 'i'm the boss' kind of stuffs..
Someone told me and some friends that police usually will just tembak any crime does caught red handed, because it is a waste of government's money to put them into jail, with all the trial and stuffs. Disgusting? Yea, really. I don't know how true is the story but that's just what we had been told.
Do they ever think of any possibility that it will happen to their family? Maybe they just some teenagers who get naughty and yes it is not right. But who are they to play God to take someone's life just like that? And to those who think it's a right way to 'save government money' maybe it's time for you to contribute more to the country's economy!
Aminulrasyid, RIP...
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Funny things about people
Do you agree that it's OK for people to blame someone by someone else past?
Life is unpredictable. Sometimes we know the person we in love with, sometimes we thought we understand the person we've been married for years, sometimes even with the neighbor we grew up with their smiles. We never understand other people. They are different being.
Some people can say very terrible things to others, but never feel any slight of guilt about it. For them it is something that they feel, and they don't have to feel sorry for it. They praise the Almighty God everyday, without fail.But in their heart, they still judge other people so badly, they forget the basic commandments of God.
Some people will judge someone's else daughter before take a close look at their daughter. They can list down thousands bad things they saw in other people's daughter, with just one day meet, but they never really take a silent moment and look at their own daughter. Had their daughter become someone that make them proud. Is their daughter successful in her life, or living a life as permitted my the God they praise?
There's so much things you will never understand about other people. Like it or not, you will live in the same world as them. Everyone is not perfect, but some people always think they are perfect.
Life is unpredictable. Sometimes we know the person we in love with, sometimes we thought we understand the person we've been married for years, sometimes even with the neighbor we grew up with their smiles. We never understand other people. They are different being.
Some people can say very terrible things to others, but never feel any slight of guilt about it. For them it is something that they feel, and they don't have to feel sorry for it. They praise the Almighty God everyday, without fail.But in their heart, they still judge other people so badly, they forget the basic commandments of God.
Some people will judge someone's else daughter before take a close look at their daughter. They can list down thousands bad things they saw in other people's daughter, with just one day meet, but they never really take a silent moment and look at their own daughter. Had their daughter become someone that make them proud. Is their daughter successful in her life, or living a life as permitted my the God they praise?
There's so much things you will never understand about other people. Like it or not, you will live in the same world as them. Everyone is not perfect, but some people always think they are perfect.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Why you must change your ideas and feelings about money
Money is a never ending topic to talk with..people need money, people waste money and people abuse money. myself...hmmm.. i am the type of person who will only use my money with something that really worth for it.ha ha...and i love spending my money for some Educational kids toys rather than buying expensive sun glass..:P
'Women : Earn and save'
'Girl : Spend, spend , spend'
When i keep thinking about all the expenses, savings, bills i need to pay, i am used to be so stress out. But when you learn how to feel towards money, you will act and think differently. And money will just be there when you need them. Well, not saying that you don't have to do anything, but something like, there will be a way.
And be sincere with money. believe in 'What goes around comes around'. if you too stingy to spend money for others, maybe the money will be so reluctantly go nearby you? or maybe you spend money to others but you tell the whole world about it? Or maybe you go to some reunion, and just hoping someone will pay the bills because you don't have money?
Well things like that.
When people keep being mad with their always-don't-have-money, they failed to think. What have they done to make the opportunity come closer.
Yups, so be sincere , spend wisely and do not always think 'You pay for it, you have money, i don't have money' because, you already cursed yourself to have no money, and praying for the other person to have money. ha ha..Well think about it, you will realize how true it is.
Money Money money...Must be funny...:D..Nighty nite beautiful people :)
'Women : Earn and save'
'Girl : Spend, spend , spend'
When i keep thinking about all the expenses, savings, bills i need to pay, i am used to be so stress out. But when you learn how to feel towards money, you will act and think differently. And money will just be there when you need them. Well, not saying that you don't have to do anything, but something like, there will be a way.
And be sincere with money. believe in 'What goes around comes around'. if you too stingy to spend money for others, maybe the money will be so reluctantly go nearby you? or maybe you spend money to others but you tell the whole world about it? Or maybe you go to some reunion, and just hoping someone will pay the bills because you don't have money?
Well things like that.
When people keep being mad with their always-don't-have-money, they failed to think. What have they done to make the opportunity come closer.
What makes the difference in our feelings about money is how we choose to use our FREE-WILL in handling money and any other resource that's been given to us.
In other words - don't blame the resources because of how we have decided to use them. We create and are responsible for our own greed and mis-use of these resources... not the resources themselves. They are totally innocent of our decisions.
When we come to understand this, and put it in perspective, we begin to understand our relationship with this planet... with each other, with the universe and with money.
Yups, so be sincere , spend wisely and do not always think 'You pay for it, you have money, i don't have money' because, you already cursed yourself to have no money, and praying for the other person to have money. ha ha..Well think about it, you will realize how true it is.
Money Money money...Must be funny...:D..Nighty nite beautiful people :)
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
3D Advertising in Malaysia
Proudly presenting.....jeng jeng jeng...hehe
Our new collaboration with Balfour International had finally putting up 5 3D screens located at Sunway Pyramid Mall!
Finally ..yea finally...After all the work and headache..
A new and emerging way of advertising, cool and really cool..heheh..
Go and visit them at Sunway Pyramid Mall!
Ok sambung kerja! :D
Our new collaboration with Balfour International had finally putting up 5 3D screens located at Sunway Pyramid Mall!
Finally ..yea finally...After all the work and headache..
A new and emerging way of advertising, cool and really cool..heheh..
Go and visit them at Sunway Pyramid Mall!
Ok sambung kerja! :D
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Self-Meditation : Time Mangement
I have trouble with my time management!
Being a full time working woman, in a very busy industry,i really have a very little time for myself..not yet to mention yours truly new company that really need an attention. Everyday is like a battlefield for me, struggling 9am to 8pm in the office, rushing home cooking dinner, having 2 minute rest and continue with work. My mind keep on working even though i am physically asleep!
There one phrase at Web Article that attract my attention:
Hmm maybe? Ok i'll give it a try tomorrow..See if it works ya!
Oh by the way, i might will try baking (yea, you read it right )this weekend.. Ha ha...i just excited after reading webwordarticle about a cake..well maybe baking could be a good therapy? I'll let you guys updated :D
Someday..someday..i will stay longer at home, and lesser in the office...
Being a full time working woman, in a very busy industry,i really have a very little time for myself..not yet to mention yours truly new company that really need an attention. Everyday is like a battlefield for me, struggling 9am to 8pm in the office, rushing home cooking dinner, having 2 minute rest and continue with work. My mind keep on working even though i am physically asleep!
There one phrase at Web Article that attract my attention:
There is a belief that a messy desk or office reflects a disorganized or messy mind. Whether this is true or not is of little importance. What does matter is that piles of paper, memos and reports on the desk generate a feeling of not being up-to-date with your work, and may also force you to think about more than one job at a time.
Hmm maybe? Ok i'll give it a try tomorrow..See if it works ya!
Oh by the way, i might will try baking (yea, you read it right )this weekend.. Ha ha...i just excited after reading webwordarticle about a cake..well maybe baking could be a good therapy? I'll let you guys updated :D
Someday..someday..i will stay longer at home, and lesser in the office...
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
A car insurance..?
Here i am still...almost midnight and i need my sleeping beauty. Tomorrow will be another busy day, and i would need all my spare time to rest and sleep. But im still in front of my laptop, with my fingers moving fast , typing what my mind command me.
Another 2 months for my car insurance. I really hate spending my precious money for my car insurance every year, why should i have a car insurance? I could just pay the cost if my car broke, i won’t be very unlucky to have my car fixed every month, i guess.
But wait, arguing this with Mr.Google, i cannot argure more, when Mr.Google shows me one fantastic article about why we need car insurance !
People, if you still have a stupid idea like me before, not knowing why we need car insurance, then please read that article. It will surely open up your mind, wide and clear. It had been written in a very strong understanding, a perfect experience and mature explanations.
At least i know before its too late!
Monday, April 20, 2009
Touching Video : Chicken Ala Carte
Chicken Ala Carte..That's the title for this very touching short video, done by a Ferdinand Dimadura.
It was really touching and it shows us the meaning of appreciation. Do we appreciate the things or people we have around us.. Do we appreciate the family, the blessing or the surrounding that keeps us smiling.
I was about to blog about my hectic working day, how i hate my days and all...but having watched this, well...i am very grateful for what i have now..I cant imagine having to live like those children, and some dying in hunger..
It will never enough. When we have something, we will tend to wanting more and more...Thus, we forget to stop and appreciate everything that had been blessed for us...
It was really touching and it shows us the meaning of appreciation. Do we appreciate the things or people we have around us.. Do we appreciate the family, the blessing or the surrounding that keeps us smiling.
I was about to blog about my hectic working day, how i hate my days and all...but having watched this, well...i am very grateful for what i have now..I cant imagine having to live like those children, and some dying in hunger..
It will never enough. When we have something, we will tend to wanting more and more...Thus, we forget to stop and appreciate everything that had been blessed for us...
Sunday, April 19, 2009
RECYCLE
Been busy with the new advertising content, im devoting myself with all Recycle article in the net. The theme for this year for our advertising is about Recycle..Recycle everything we can! And im so into it now, haha...Like everything can be recycle, everything need to be recycle, and indeed, recycling can helps a lot in our environment, increase our health , well when the environment getting better, it will eventually making us getting healthier ..:)..
Imagine a world with no pollution..Well guys there's a lot of ways to help Earth..Please start recycling..Please stop adding more and more unwanted stuffs to our beloved earth..Hehe, see, as i told ya, im really into Recycling now..
Think about it guys, lets help our Earth..If not Us, who else..:)
Imagine a world with no pollution..Well guys there's a lot of ways to help Earth..Please start recycling..Please stop adding more and more unwanted stuffs to our beloved earth..Hehe, see, as i told ya, im really into Recycling now..
Think about it guys, lets help our Earth..If not Us, who else..:)
Saturday, April 11, 2009
A simple thought..
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring...
It is not as big as boasting words or fake beautiful smiles, but it can make a big difference in one's life..
:)
Lazy weekend...am doing my research on our advertising network, which i really have no perfect idea on how to improve our advertising content. So much to learn so much to research. I feel like want to know everything at once, so i can complete my work quickly..
Jotted down some main idea, but, to present it in fantastic way to my boss will be a challenge. Like, how would you describe an ugly hut as a beautiful palace? hmmm...
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Keep It short and simple news.
Tons of work, lesser time everyday, frustrations, it maybe a good summary of hectic life.
It prevents us from being updated with what's going on around us. No time for papers, for news in TV or even the so many news in internet. All we need is to spare whatever time we can to get some rest or enjoying it with our love one.
If only we can hire an assistant who can summarize everything to us, it would be a bless!Imagine everything from business news, health news or even entertainment updates being served to us everyday.
All we need is a short and straight presentation of the news. we need to know the content as quick as possible and understand it. I found this very nice blog about everything related to news, and it is written in a very short and simple yet fantastic way. Anything i need to know, especially about high tech news, i could easily find them here. Worth reading guys!
It prevents us from being updated with what's going on around us. No time for papers, for news in TV or even the so many news in internet. All we need is to spare whatever time we can to get some rest or enjoying it with our love one.
If only we can hire an assistant who can summarize everything to us, it would be a bless!Imagine everything from business news, health news or even entertainment updates being served to us everyday.
All we need is a short and straight presentation of the news. we need to know the content as quick as possible and understand it. I found this very nice blog about everything related to news, and it is written in a very short and simple yet fantastic way. Anything i need to know, especially about high tech news, i could easily find them here. Worth reading guys!
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
10 more possible reasons you aren't rich
Here are 10 more possible reasons you aren't rich:
1. You care what your car looks like
2. You feel you deserve to live a certain lifestyle
3. You lack diversification
4. You started too late
5. You don't do what you enjoy
6. You don't like to learn
7. You buy things you don't use
8. You don't understand value
9. Your house is too big
10. You fail to take advantage of opportunities
The list of reasons you may not be rich doesn't end at 10.
Caring what your neighbors think, not being patient, having bad habits, not having goals, not being prepared, trying to make a quick buck, relying on others to handle your money, investing in things you don't understand, being financially afraid and ignoring your finances.
Hmmm think about it...:)
1. You care what your car looks like
2. You feel you deserve to live a certain lifestyle
3. You lack diversification
4. You started too late
5. You don't do what you enjoy
6. You don't like to learn
7. You buy things you don't use
8. You don't understand value
9. Your house is too big
10. You fail to take advantage of opportunities
The list of reasons you may not be rich doesn't end at 10.
Caring what your neighbors think, not being patient, having bad habits, not having goals, not being prepared, trying to make a quick buck, relying on others to handle your money, investing in things you don't understand, being financially afraid and ignoring your finances.
Hmmm think about it...:)
Saturday, February 21, 2009
the voice that something..
Well i was kinda taking my weekend rest having my good time at home and stuffs, watched TV and all, when accidentally watched One In A Million concert..
Straight to my point, i was and am still, very impressed with one of the contestant Elizabeth or Ester, who is from Sabah. She really is something!...i am not a real fan of any reality Tv or whatsoever, but to hear her voice, her singing, well..she really got the talent i tell ya..
So i google EasterOIAM, i know someone out there as keen as me, will upload last nite concert :)..and yeah..its in youtube!!
This 21 yrs girl do Better In Time by Leona Lewis, but in her own style, fantastic style..It was like.. there's a spirit when she sang the song..She captured me...
Well guys, she can go far..check out her video..
p/s : she got immunity for next concert, so no worries, next week still can watch her perfomimg!..And if you listen carefully, someone from the crowd screaming BULI BA KALAU KAU!!...haha...go Girl!
Straight to my point, i was and am still, very impressed with one of the contestant Elizabeth or Ester, who is from Sabah. She really is something!...i am not a real fan of any reality Tv or whatsoever, but to hear her voice, her singing, well..she really got the talent i tell ya..
So i google EasterOIAM, i know someone out there as keen as me, will upload last nite concert :)..and yeah..its in youtube!!
This 21 yrs girl do Better In Time by Leona Lewis, but in her own style, fantastic style..It was like.. there's a spirit when she sang the song..She captured me...
Well guys, she can go far..check out her video..
Its been the longest winter without you
I didnt know where to turn to
See somehow I cant forget you
After all that we've been through go in, come in
thought i heard a knock
who's there?
no one
thinking that i deserved it
now i realize that i really didnt know
you didnt notice,
you mean everything
quickly im learning, to love again
all i know is, imma be ok
thought i couldnt live without you
its gonna hurt when it heals to
it'll all get better in time
even though i really love you
im gonna smile cause i deserve to
it'll all get better in time
how could i turn on the tv
without something there to remind me
was it all that easy
to just put aside your feelings
if im dreaming
dont wanna let,
hurt my feelings
I didnt know where to turn to
See somehow I cant forget you
After all that we've been through go in, come in
thought i heard a knock
who's there?
no one
thinking that i deserved it
now i realize that i really didnt know
you didnt notice,
you mean everything
quickly im learning, to love again
all i know is, imma be ok
thought i couldnt live without you
its gonna hurt when it heals to
it'll all get better in time
even though i really love you
im gonna smile cause i deserve to
it'll all get better in time
how could i turn on the tv
without something there to remind me
was it all that easy
to just put aside your feelings
if im dreaming
dont wanna let,
hurt my feelings
p/s : she got immunity for next concert, so no worries, next week still can watch her perfomimg!..And if you listen carefully, someone from the crowd screaming BULI BA KALAU KAU!!...haha...go Girl!
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Everything I Know About woman
I read this from The Times Online and it absolutely worth to share :)..
As a single man in my mid-thirties, I’ve spent 20 years trying to understand women, with mixed results. It wasn’t until six months ago, however, that I was given a clear insight into how the female mind works.
It came in the form of Lou-Lou, my two-year-old niece. I know, as a grown-up, that the onus is on me to teach her useful stuff rather than the other way around, but in this case, the instruction was mutual. I taught her how to wink, blow raspberries, burp and count to 10, sort of. “One, two, three, seven, nine, ten”, which is good enough for me, as, personally, I’ve always thought the numbers four, five, six and eight were overrated.
In return, I learnt more about women in two months than I had gleaned on my own in two decades. This does not mean, by the way, that I think women are like two-year-olds and should be treated as such. I love my niece. I respect my niece. I’d dive on an unexploded grenade for my niece, and not just to amuse her. I would only dive on it if there was real danger of it exploding and hurting her. Women are all individuals and I’m making generalisations, but in the two-year-old Lou-Lou is the undiluted, unaffected essence – the “id” – of womanhood. Here’s what I’ve learnt.
1 Ignore them
1If I come into a room and bounce up to Lou-Lou like a clown, trying to amuse and entertain, she blanks me completely. It’s as if I don’t exist. If I walk straight past her, however, I guarantee she will call out my name and want to play with me.
2 Bribe them
Gifts work. Preferably something noisy or sparkly. With Lou-Lou, that means stuffed animals that sing or sequined hair grips. With grown women, I suppose that equates to, say, cars and jewellery.
3 Compliment them
I’ve mistakenly always held that compliments are like diamonds: valuable only for their scarcity. Flood the market and they lose all value. Not so. Lou-Lou poos in her nappy, everyone cheers – as if she just came up with a workable solution to world hunger – and she beams like a lighthouse. The same works with grown women, although, of course, only the general principle applies rather than the specific example given here. (I learnt this one the hard way.)
4 Listen to them
I’ve spent my life trying to preempt what women want. I needn’t have bothered. If I just pay attention, Lou-Lou will tell me exactly what she wants: eat, dance, doll, jump, run, sing, play, read. Then all I have to do is organise it. How much simpler my life would have been if I had listened and acted accordingly.
5 Apologise
It doesn’t matter what you’ve done. It doesn’t matter if you don’t even know what you’ve done. I might have slighted Lou-Lou by putting the wrong doll in the pram. What seems to you or me like a minor infraction is, to her, on a par with genocide. The best policy is to throw yourself on her mercy and beg forgiveness. But you must sound sincere. You don’t have to be sincere, just sound sincere. This is so elementary, yet how many men ignore this advice?
6 Let them do it
Whatever “it” is. No matter how ridiculous it may seem to you, let her do it. When Lou-Lou gets an idea into her mind, there’s no talking her out of it. In fact, be supportive, encourage her even. Then sit back and hope she discovers for herself that it was a stupid idea. The downside is that she might decide it was an excellent idea. One day, I found myself playing dolls’ tea party for two whole hours and drank so many cups of imaginary tea, I was imaginary peeing all afternoon.
7 Don't tell them what to do
The best way to guarantee that she doesn’t do what I want is by telling her to do it. The clever thing is to make it seem like her idea – and make it seem fun. One of my proudest moments was convincing Lou-Lou that watching the rugby World Cup final would be more fun than playing in the sandpit.
8 Don't complain to them
This is a tricky one. What I mean by this is, don’t burden her with your petty problems. When I complain to Lou-Lou about a bad meeting or a sore back, she couldn’t care less, but if there’s genuinely something wrong, she will instinctively sense it and, with one hug, pick me up more than I thought possible.
9 Don't argue
There’s simply no point. You will never win, and if you do win, it will be a hollow victory because of the mood she’ll be in for a long time afterwards. Quite frankly, who needs the aggro? This leads to my final and most important point:
10 Don't make them cry
There is nothing more distressing than watching Lou-Lou’s enormous, innocent brown eyes overflow with tears, while her mouth becomes a gaping, drooling, mournful air-raid siren that pierces through to the core of my heart. I’m utterly defenceless when she cries. And there’s no known antidote. Food? Monkey impressions? A pony? Stabbing myself in the eye with a chopstick? I will agree to anything to stop her crying – and doesn’t she.
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Tuesday, January 20, 2009
OUR SEPARATE DREAM ARE ONE
I was going through the most prefect torture in my life for the past 2 weeks..Emotionally and physically tortured, all exhausted and all down..Working 20 hrs a day, trying to please and satisfy everyone, get things done and trying to get some rest ...
The work load was very high, the deadline is confusingly short, and the time is eerily moving very fast..Trying my very best to manage my time, my work load and my sleep, so that everything can get equal satisfaction..but yeah, my sleep will be having the most critical moment..which always have to be scarified..My backbone ached while my eyes trying to coordinate with the brain on what they are reading, understand every words, figures and everything..I only have my positive emotion (which i tried very hard to keep it positive) to keep me going...and i almost collapse...
Yea, but finally i am in my ‘normal’ life again..not too busy, not too free...Have my time to do something i like, and give myself some moment to hibernate..:D
AND..today..today..is 20 JAN 2009..A Special day...:)..Very special....Barrack Obama’s inauguration! Yeahhh!!...Obama brings with him the presidency..
I love his speech for remembrance of Dr. King, a day before his inauguration.. OUR SEPARATE DREAM ARE ONE..
Today, we celebrate the life of a preacher who, more than forty-five years ago, stood on our national mall in the shadow of Lincoln and shared his dream for our nation. His was a vision that all Americans might share the freedom to make of our lives what we will; that our children might climb higher than we would.
Dr. Martin Luther King's was a life lived in loving service to others. As we honor that legacy, it's not a day just to pause and reflect - it's a day to act. Today, ordinary citizens will gather together all across the country to participate in the more than eleven thousand service projects they've created using USAservice.org. And I ask the American people to turn today's efforts into an ongoing commitment to enriching the lives of others in their communities, their cities, and their country.
Tomorrow, we will come together as one people on the same mall where Dr. King's dream echoes still. As we do, we recognize that here in America, our destinies are inextricably linked. We resolve that as we walk, we must walk together. And as we go forward in the work of renewing the promise of this nation, let's remember King's lesson - that our separate dreams are really one.
I am soo soo and soo cant wait for his inauguration speech..He is the man with a great words, and all his speech inspired (me especially ) a very well thought, indeed...Obama is LOOKING BACK to LOOK FORWARD..Past does matter...Hmm...
For me, it doesn’t matter where Obama lead, where he standing tall as a president..it doesn’t have to be here, but, his thought his words his wisdom meant to be shared, learned and maybe practice..And...He’s the HOTTEST president ever! Heheeh....
Yeah...Obama..The 44th President of America
Thursday, December 11, 2008
A life..A simplicity...
I always adore simplicity in someone's personality, and to inspire from someones success yet being so humble living their life...Warren Buffet..for an instance..i love him..A man full of knowledge and so simple in his life..the late mother Theresa..her love gives people life...
Yep...Quote me on this : 'I dont need expensive brands, i make my own successful brand!' err..someday...hmmm...heheheh
Just to share this post from someone who is very successful, yet the way he think makes me want to know him more....:)
A Blog Posted by Singapore 's Youngest Millionaire
By Adam Khoo
Some of you may already know that I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand and Suzhou (China). I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books.
Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, 'How come a millionaire like you is travelling economy?' My reply was, 'That's why I am a millionaire.' He still looked pretty confused. This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth (which I wrote about in my latest book 'Secrets of Self Made Millionaires'). Many people have been brainwashed to think that millionaires have to wear Gucci, Hugo Boss, Rolex, and sit on first class in air travel. This is why so many people never become rich because the moment that earn more money, they think that it is only natural that they spend more, putting them back to square one.
The truth is that most self-made millionaires are frugal and only spend on what is necessary and of value. That is why they are able to accumulate and multiply their wealth so much faster. Over the last 7 years, I have saved about 80% of my income while today I save only about 60% (because I have my wife, mother in law, 2 maids, 2 kids, etc. to support). Still, it is way above most people who save 10% of their income (if they are lucky). I refuse to buy a first class ticket or to buy a $300 shirt because I think that it is a complete waste of money. However, I happily pay $1,300 to send my 2-year old daughter to Julia Gabriel Speech and Drama without thinking twice.
When I joined the YEO (Young Entrepreneur's Organization) a few years back (YEO is an exclusive club open to those who are under 40 and make over $1m a year in their own business) I discovered that those who were self-made thought like me. Many of them with net worths well over $5m, travelled economy class and some even drove Toyota's and Nissans (not Audis, Mercs, BMWs).
I noticed that it was only those who never had to work hard to build their own wealth (there were also a few ministers' and tycoons' sons in the club) who spent like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, when you did not have to build everything from scratch, you do not really value money. This is precisely the reason why a family's wealth (no matter how much) rarely lasts past the third generation. Thank God my rich dad (oh no! I sound like Kiyosaki) foresaw this terrible possibility and refused to give me a cent to start my business.
Then some people ask me, 'What is the point in making so much money if you don't enjoy it?' The thing is that I don't really find happiness in buying branded clothes, jewellery or sitting first class. Even if buying something makes me happy it is only for a while, it does not last. Material happiness never lasts, it just give you a quick fix. After a while you feel lousy again and have to buy the next thing which you think will make you happy. I always think that if you need material things to make you happy, then you live a pretty sad and unfulfilled life.
Instead, what make ME happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see by companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone's life. What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this BLOG is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much much more than what a Rolex would do for me.
I think the point I want to put across is that happiness must come from doing your life's work (be in teaching, building homes, designing, trading, winning tournaments etc.) and the money that comes is only a by-product. If you hate what you are doing and rely on the money you earn to make you happy by buying stuff, then I think that you are living a life of meaningless.
P/s :) just finish google Adam Choo, and edit this post..Above article is entitled 'Are You Living Like A Prostitute?' haha...nice one.. chakkk!
Yep...Quote me on this : 'I dont need expensive brands, i make my own successful brand!' err..someday...hmmm...heheheh
Just to share this post from someone who is very successful, yet the way he think makes me want to know him more....:)
A Blog Posted by Singapore 's Youngest Millionaire
By Adam Khoo
Some of you may already know that I travel around the region pretty frequently, having to visit and conduct seminars at my offices in Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand and Suzhou (China). I am in the airport almost every other week so I get to bump into many people who have attended my seminars or have read my books.
Recently, someone came up to me on a plane to KL and looked rather shocked. He asked, 'How come a millionaire like you is travelling economy?' My reply was, 'That's why I am a millionaire.' He still looked pretty confused. This again confirms that greatest lie ever told about wealth (which I wrote about in my latest book 'Secrets of Self Made Millionaires'). Many people have been brainwashed to think that millionaires have to wear Gucci, Hugo Boss, Rolex, and sit on first class in air travel. This is why so many people never become rich because the moment that earn more money, they think that it is only natural that they spend more, putting them back to square one.
The truth is that most self-made millionaires are frugal and only spend on what is necessary and of value. That is why they are able to accumulate and multiply their wealth so much faster. Over the last 7 years, I have saved about 80% of my income while today I save only about 60% (because I have my wife, mother in law, 2 maids, 2 kids, etc. to support). Still, it is way above most people who save 10% of their income (if they are lucky). I refuse to buy a first class ticket or to buy a $300 shirt because I think that it is a complete waste of money. However, I happily pay $1,300 to send my 2-year old daughter to Julia Gabriel Speech and Drama without thinking twice.
When I joined the YEO (Young Entrepreneur's Organization) a few years back (YEO is an exclusive club open to those who are under 40 and make over $1m a year in their own business) I discovered that those who were self-made thought like me. Many of them with net worths well over $5m, travelled economy class and some even drove Toyota's and Nissans (not Audis, Mercs, BMWs).
I noticed that it was only those who never had to work hard to build their own wealth (there were also a few ministers' and tycoons' sons in the club) who spent like there was no tomorrow. Somehow, when you did not have to build everything from scratch, you do not really value money. This is precisely the reason why a family's wealth (no matter how much) rarely lasts past the third generation. Thank God my rich dad (oh no! I sound like Kiyosaki) foresaw this terrible possibility and refused to give me a cent to start my business.
Then some people ask me, 'What is the point in making so much money if you don't enjoy it?' The thing is that I don't really find happiness in buying branded clothes, jewellery or sitting first class. Even if buying something makes me happy it is only for a while, it does not last. Material happiness never lasts, it just give you a quick fix. After a while you feel lousy again and have to buy the next thing which you think will make you happy. I always think that if you need material things to make you happy, then you live a pretty sad and unfulfilled life.
Instead, what make ME happy is when I see my children laughing and playing and learning so fast. What makes me happy is when I see by companies and trainers reaching more and more people every year in so many more countries. What makes me really happy is when I read all the emails about how my books and seminars have touched and inspired someone's life. What makes me really happy is reading all your wonderful posts about how this BLOG is inspiring you. This happiness makes me feel really good for a long time, much much more than what a Rolex would do for me.
I think the point I want to put across is that happiness must come from doing your life's work (be in teaching, building homes, designing, trading, winning tournaments etc.) and the money that comes is only a by-product. If you hate what you are doing and rely on the money you earn to make you happy by buying stuff, then I think that you are living a life of meaningless.
P/s :) just finish google Adam Choo, and edit this post..Above article is entitled 'Are You Living Like A Prostitute?' haha...nice one.. chakkk!
Thursday, November 27, 2008
A thought of endearment..
Trouble sleeping....my mind keep thinking of my grandparents, persons i love most...and missed....
...2 years after my dear grandpapa passed away..I miss him..so dearly..
All the memories with him still fresh in my mind, like it was just yesterday. He’s the greatest man in my life.
Will always remember the way he makes jokes when i was in trouble, to makes me forget my trouble, how he carry me when i was a little girl, walking me and encourage me on my steps..how he sooth me when i had my bad day. He suffered colon cancer for 10 years, before finally resting in peace, and he never complains how much he is suffering all those time. I would say he live his life to the fullest, and never regretted on what he had gone through in his life.
I am his granddaughter, who trying her best to be like him...But as much as i tried i never get even close. I am not strong enough, i am not positive enough and i am not optimist enough. I really want to be like him, i really do. Can i..?
He once told us (all his grandchildren) to always have each other in good or bad times, and yes we practise it until now. I love the big families i have now, and we always thank him for this, even though we are all far apart all over the world, but well, internet connecting us. We keep on updating on each other what’s going on.
What i regretted most in my life is that he did not wait for me to say i love him, before he gone forever. .Will he think that i never think about him? Will he think that i didn’t love him anymore?Will he hate me for that?
The guilt haunted me until now..He taught me love, but love is not the last thing he heard from me before his last breath. And where was I when he struggling for his life? Here...I am here, with my so-called struggling-my-career on..I really wish i could turn back the time, i really wish i could...
....and 1 year after my grandma passed away..i love her..
My grandma..my sweet grandma..she’s the most beautiful women on earth, i would say..She have a small eyes, sweet little lips, her skin very fair, small figure yet very strong woman. Hmm..yups, she’s the opposite of my grandpa, in a sense of ‘point of view’..They always arguing about even a small thing , but always, my grandpa will finally smile and surrender..and my sweet grandma will have the win smile on her face.
She is a very independent woman, even with my so sweet grandpa as her husband, she never trusted anyone but herself for her life. She’s a very proud woman, who don’t want anyone to see her weakness..And me, i dare not to cry even in anything in front of her, cuz she wont allow any tears..
She always ask us to be the best in everything..sometimes, as a child, i was very hurt and angry when she nags for me not doing well in my task, or my school, when i have tried all my best to achieve what she wants...yet she still complaining, and i felt like she never appreciate my efforts..
As time goes by, i then realize she was very proud of me, but she keep in hide from me..she wants me to do more, and more and more..she’s an angle...she knows whats the best for me, yet she never say it..she will push me to the way, even when i scream i hate her..she wont care..
I still cant accept that now she had gone, and in my dream always...is her...my beloved grandma..i still can feel her very strong spirit pushing me through my hard day...and even shes no longer here, i can feel her giving me all the strength when i am really down..i wish i could inherit her strong spirit and confidence. Tears still running down when i really miss her, cuz i really wish she can hug me and tell me that everything is gonna be allright.....
And tonight..i really want to sleep in her embrace....i really do...
...2 years after my dear grandpapa passed away..I miss him..so dearly..
All the memories with him still fresh in my mind, like it was just yesterday. He’s the greatest man in my life.
Will always remember the way he makes jokes when i was in trouble, to makes me forget my trouble, how he carry me when i was a little girl, walking me and encourage me on my steps..how he sooth me when i had my bad day. He suffered colon cancer for 10 years, before finally resting in peace, and he never complains how much he is suffering all those time. I would say he live his life to the fullest, and never regretted on what he had gone through in his life.
I am his granddaughter, who trying her best to be like him...But as much as i tried i never get even close. I am not strong enough, i am not positive enough and i am not optimist enough. I really want to be like him, i really do. Can i..?
He once told us (all his grandchildren) to always have each other in good or bad times, and yes we practise it until now. I love the big families i have now, and we always thank him for this, even though we are all far apart all over the world, but well, internet connecting us. We keep on updating on each other what’s going on.
What i regretted most in my life is that he did not wait for me to say i love him, before he gone forever. .Will he think that i never think about him? Will he think that i didn’t love him anymore?Will he hate me for that?
The guilt haunted me until now..He taught me love, but love is not the last thing he heard from me before his last breath. And where was I when he struggling for his life? Here...I am here, with my so-called struggling-my-career on..I really wish i could turn back the time, i really wish i could...
....and 1 year after my grandma passed away..i love her..
My grandma..my sweet grandma..she’s the most beautiful women on earth, i would say..She have a small eyes, sweet little lips, her skin very fair, small figure yet very strong woman. Hmm..yups, she’s the opposite of my grandpa, in a sense of ‘point of view’..They always arguing about even a small thing , but always, my grandpa will finally smile and surrender..and my sweet grandma will have the win smile on her face.
She is a very independent woman, even with my so sweet grandpa as her husband, she never trusted anyone but herself for her life. She’s a very proud woman, who don’t want anyone to see her weakness..And me, i dare not to cry even in anything in front of her, cuz she wont allow any tears..
She always ask us to be the best in everything..sometimes, as a child, i was very hurt and angry when she nags for me not doing well in my task, or my school, when i have tried all my best to achieve what she wants...yet she still complaining, and i felt like she never appreciate my efforts..
As time goes by, i then realize she was very proud of me, but she keep in hide from me..she wants me to do more, and more and more..she’s an angle...she knows whats the best for me, yet she never say it..she will push me to the way, even when i scream i hate her..she wont care..
I still cant accept that now she had gone, and in my dream always...is her...my beloved grandma..i still can feel her very strong spirit pushing me through my hard day...and even shes no longer here, i can feel her giving me all the strength when i am really down..i wish i could inherit her strong spirit and confidence. Tears still running down when i really miss her, cuz i really wish she can hug me and tell me that everything is gonna be allright.....
And tonight..i really want to sleep in her embrace....i really do...
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